I have a background in therapy, so offer as an add on, 'kink' counselling to my BDSM clients at my chamber in West London.

I have belonged to numerous professional bodies and have an interest in fetish, sexual orientation, sexuality and gender issues. I still attend workshops and extended residential seminars to catch up with old friends and keep up-to-date with the latest research.

I feel a good deal of my time sessioning as a pro-domme has come to incorporate elements of talking therapy, using the 'tools' of the 3 core conditions - empathy, congruence and having unconditional positive regard. This style of engagement was developed by Carl Rogers and incorporated into Person-Centered Therapy, under the umbrella of the Humanistic movement.

Empathy - I strive to accurately understands your thoughts, feelings and meanings. I perceive and acknowledge what the world is like from your point of view.

Congruence - I endeavor to be authentic and genuine.

Unconditional Positive Regard - I aim to understand you unconditionally and non-judgmentally.

An in-depth chat may suit you, before/after a session.

This could be helpful if -

1.  You are nervous and not quite sure what direction to take.

2.  You are in a muddle as to what your needs are, feel uncomfortable with desires that just will not go away.

3.  You need space to just explore verbally the posibility of BDSM activity with no pressure to 'preform' straight away.

4.  You have a 'secret' life to negotiate, want to come 'out' but do not know where to begin.

5.  You have an unsatisfactory sex life and want to explore ways it may improved.

6.  You feel lonely and/or misunderstood.

7.  You sense feeling alienated and cut off from important aspects of yourself.

8.  You have other general issues that you feel impact on yourself, your sexuality........etc.

Why am I providing this service? Some of my time when having the pre-session chat and going over the health questionnaire has evolved into a much more therapeutically driven space. This leads me to believe, through experience, that there is a need for an extension of this form of engagement with some clients.

Men who visit me are all individuals, with different needs and wants. I reflect on this and keep it in mind when evolving a package that would be best suited to us both.

There is an add on fee for anywhere between half to an hour of 'kink' counselling, from £50 to £100.  Naturally this takes place in my BDSM chamber.

E-mail me at mistresshourglass@yahoo.co.uk for further details.

Please include in your introductory email -

1.  Your name (what you choose to be called by me).

2.  Your possible availability during working hours.

3.  Any mental, emotional and physical health issues you are aware of.

4.  Any personal information you feel necessary to communicate to me.

5.  What you seek to gain from this therapeutic encounter.

It goes without saying that our time together is ALWAYS confidential.

I will normally respond to all polite e-mails within 48 hours.

Ms HG